April 8, 20190

This latest trend ‘Fiver Party Invitation’ sweeping the schoolyard could be a solution for a birthday party that won’t break the bank!

Kids love receiving invitations to birthday parties but, for some parents, it can be an expensive exercise to purchase gifts for your children’s friends every few weeks. And for the parents of the birthday child, you are often left with unnecessary plastic toys that add to the clutter in the home, not to mention the clutter on the planet.

Enter: the Fiver party. Instead of bringing a gift, each party attendee brings a five dollar note tucked into a card. The birthday child can then use the money to buy something they really want.

Sound good? For some parents this idea will be polarising, as asking for money from friends can seem a bit…unseemly. Careful wording in your invitations will counter this for most parents. The idea should be more of a suggestion than a request. One way of wording it could go like this:

Presents are not required but $5 contributions to Elsa’s scooter fund will be greatly appreciated!

As the Fiver party concept becomes more commonplace, the wording can perhaps be replaced by a simple declaration like, ‘This is a fiver party!’, but in the meantime it is best to tread carefully so as not to offend anyone.


Why have a Fiver party?

The Fiver party concept allows children to choose carefully what they spend their money on. It encourages learning around saving and making change, and it can also spur conversations around waste and looking after the planet.

The importance of a card is driven home. Often, children will ignore the card attached to a present as they hungrily rip into the wrapping. At a Fiver party, the attendee can write a heartfelt message or draw a picture that will actually be seen – before the cash is snatched and pocketed, that is!

No Fiver invitation but still want to keep to a budget and/ or reduce waste? How about these gift ideas:

  • A special and bright kids mug with some sweets in it (if you like) won’t cost much and will often be well-used in the home when kids have hot chocolate or Milo.
  • Books are always appreciated by parents (and by kids later, once the excitement of the party has died down), although they are not always cheap. Buy them on sale and keep for when birthdays come up. The Scholastic Lucky Book Club brochure usually has a few $2 books on offer.
  • Art supplies can be found at reasonable prices and can be combined to make an inspiring gift. Items like pipe cleaners and sticky note shapes make for interesting, creative projects.
  • Cookie mix in a jar. Simply layer all the dry ingredients you need for a batch of cookies into a large jar and label it with instructions. The birthday child can then add the wet ingredients and make their own treats. You can get your child to help design the label and measure the ingredients for an extra learning opportunity.

Tips for birthday gift etiquette

  • Don’t go overboard on the expensive gifts, even if you can afford it. It can make other parents and kids feel bad. You might even upstage the birthday child’s parents.
  • If more than one of your children is invited to a party, bring a gift from each child if you can, even if each gift is small.
  • Avoid noisy toys and items that will take up a lot of space, if you want to remain friends with the parents of the child you’re buying for, that is!




February 7, 20190

Over the past two of weeks we’ve been hearing collective sighs of relief and high fives as kids head back to school, and parents celebrate school holiday survival.

While you might be ready to see their backpacks heading out the door, not all kids are feeling excited about their days of freedom and flexibility coming to an end. There will of course be many looking forward to reuniting with friends and getting back into school activities, others however may be feeling nervous about change – new teacher, new classes, even a new school – or adjusting to new expectations around routines, both in the home and the classroom.

A mixture of nerves and excitement is completely normal. Most children will settle within the first few weeks, others, may take a little longer to find their feet. If you’re worried about an extended adjustment period, there are some ways you can help your family feel more settled, according to Jennifer Pollard, founder and coach at The Kids Coach.

She runs coaching and classes designed to help modern children develop social, emotional and psychological strengths. As a parent, wife and business owner, she knows all about the challenges and demands facing modern families. “The adjustment period can be a trying time for the whole family with increased needs for support, reassurance and assistance. At times these increased demands can strain the time and energy of busy parents and it can be really useful to actively reduce outside commitments during the first term and allow extra time for rest and recuperation for both parents and kids”, Jennifer says.

Here are Jennifer’s tips for a happy household as kids head back to school:

● Prepare, Plan and Organise

Planning ahead helps things to run smoothly! Create simple afternoon and morning routines so that everyone knows exactly what needs to be done and in what order. Some children find having a chart with pictures to follow helps develop confidence and stay focused. Lay out clothes and pack bags the night before. Unpack bags, put lunch boxes on the bench as soon as you get home.

● Reduce extra curricular activities

During the first term give everyone more space and time to adjust to new routines, without added pressures.

● Schedule in downtime for rest and recuperation

And that’s not just for the kids – reach out to family and friends for support, and organise some kid-free time to recharge your batteries.

● Develop a relationship with your child’s teacher

Make an effort to head into school before or after class if possible, or email. Teachers are busy people with lots of children and jobs to attend to so obviously be mindful of that but it is worth taking time build a relationship with your child’s new teacher.

● Encourage playdates

Encourage your child to invite friends from school over to play after school or on the weekend. It is often preferable to invite one friend at a time so that your child can really spend time bonding with their playmate.

● Make extra time for connection

Spend time doing something enjoyable just for fun. Fresh air and a bit of exercise always helps to recharge the batteries and alleviate stress Keep communication open If you are worried that your child may still be struggling after the initial adjustment period, Jennifer says your first step should always be to chat with your child. “Make extra time alone, without distractions, where you can connect with your child, check in with them and really listen. Some children are chatty right after pick up but most need time to process their day and are more ready to talk after some quiet time alone before bed. “Simply being present and allowing them time and space to talk about whatever is on their mind can often be enough but if they need an opening try asking open ended questions.” Here are her suggestions as conversation starters to get your child to open up:

● How have things been going at school?

● What is your teacher like?

● What are you focusing on in class?

● What are the kids in your class like?

● What did you do during break time?

As a parent or caregiver, your natural reaction is often to ‘problem solve’ or quickly offer advice. However, Jennifer suggests listening with an open mind, giving your child space to express themselves and ask you questions. “A great way to finish the conversation is by reminding your child that you are there to support them, appreciate them talking to you about things and that you love and appreciate them,” she says.

Confident kids

Within a few weeks, your child should begin to feel settled, and Jennifer says that by the second terms, they will likely have built up their confidence, developed familiarity with their teacher and peers and adapted to new routines reasonably successfully. “Remember, it is natural to struggle a little when learning new things and adjusting to new people, environments and expectations – that is an important part of the learning curve that can’t be skipped or side stepped!”, Jennifer explains. “The main thing is to keep an eye on is the intensity, duration and impact of your child’s struggle.”

Jennifer Pollard is the director of The Kids Coach. She is passionate about helping families and especially children develop the tools and skills they need to empower themselves, take on the world and make the most of whatever comes their way. Her private coaching and classes combine the most effective techniques from Positive Psychology, Play Therapy and Performance Coaching to teach important life skills to children in fun, interactive and age appropriate ways that they can understand.


September 18, 20180

Knowledge is power, and this is never more true than when it comes to accessing financial support for childcare.

There are a range of New Zealand subsidies available to help families of children in care at every age, so it pays to find out if you qualify. How much you’ll receive depends on the size of your family, your income, your work hours and how many hours a week your child is in care.

If you’re already part of the sKids family or are considering enrolling your child in our Before or After School Care, Holiday or Specialty Programmes, this blog is for you. In it, we look at who qualifies for subsidies, how to apply and where to get support through the process.

sKids offers care for children aged 5-13 and is the largest private out of school care provider in the country, with 170+ sites. The driving force behind our programmes is that all kiwi families should have access to quality childcare. As part of this we want to make sure parents are aware of and can access relevant government subsidies.

The OSCAR (Out of School Care and Recreation) subsidy is particularly relevant for our families. It provides payments for children aged 5 to 13 years (or up to 18 years if they receive the Child Disability Allowance). It helps towards the costs of Before School and After School Care for up to 20 hours a week, and School Holiday Programmes for up to 50 hours a week.

Subsidies are not guaranteed to all families, but you may be able to a subsidy if you’re:

  • Working, studying or on an approved training course or
  • Involved in an activity that Work and Income has asked you to do or
  • A shift worker who works nights or
  • Seriously ill or disabled or
  • Caring for a child in hospital or for a child you get the Child Disability Allowance In most cases you can’t get the OSCAR Subsidy if the child’s other parent or caregiver can take care of the child.

Approved OSCAR programmes include:

  • Before School
  • After School
  • Holiday Programmes and Camps

Childcare assistance starts from the date the care starts (or from the date you apply if you apply after they start). All subsidies are paid directly to the childcare provider.

You can apply now through Work and Income – before your child’s first day. This way, you’ll get a subsidy as soon as your child starts a programme. This is especially important for school holidays.

To find out how much you could be entitled to, click here or the 2018 OSCAR subsidy rates.

If you are interested in finding out if you are eligible for a child care subsidy or would like to apply, visit your local Work and Income office. Alternatively, you can go to www.workandincome.govt.nz and search using the key word Childcare or call 0800 559

sKids can also support you through this process. Talk to one of our staff — we’re always happy to help.

May 22, 2018

Our Karori site is looking for Programme Manager, Programme Assistants, and casuals for our Before School, After School, and Holiday Programmes. If you are a creative, energetic and caring person with a passion for working with children, this could be the perfect job for you.